# The Funeral Wishes Module

The FIRM Guide (thefirmguide.com) — companion to The Recoverable Family.
Fill this in privately (any text editor or by hand), then store it in your Vault.


## Secure Guide Starter Template — Funeral Wishes

> This template belongs in The Secure Guide, stored within The Vault. One entry per person — each adult's wishes get their own record, even when they were written in the same conversation. Update whenever preferences or pre-paid arrangements change.

This Module is unique in the FIRM System: it carries no security requirement. No one benefits from stealing a preference about music or flowers. What these pages require is simpler and more important — they must be found. The decisions a family makes in the first twenty-four to seventy-two hours are numerous and time-pressured; the family that finds a clear, current record makes them with confidence, and the family that finds nothing makes them from guesswork. Recording what does not exist counts too: a “no pre-paid arrangement” entry spares a search for a contract that was never signed.

If a pre-paid arrangement exists, discoverability is the whole point — a contract found after arrangements have already been made elsewhere creates more complexity, not less. And one quiet discipline belongs with the obituary: it is a public release of names, dates, and places, and claims sometimes follow it — an invoice for the deceased, an arrangement that was never made. Anything that arrives because of the obituary is routed through the executor and checked against this record. The documentation here is exactly what lets the family recognize a claim that does not match.

- Person: 

### Disposition Preferences
| Decision | Preference | Notes |
| --- | --- | --- |
| Burial, cremation, or alternative |   |   |
| If burial: cemetery or location preference |   |   |
| If cremation: ashes preference |   |   |
| Pre-paid arrangement in place | Yes / No |   |

### Pre-Paid Arrangements
| Provider | Service Covered | Policy / Contract Number | Contact | Document Location |
| --- | --- | --- | --- | --- |
|   |   |   |   |   |

### Memorial or Funeral Service Preferences
| Element | Preference |
| --- | --- |
| Type of service (religious / secular / celebration of life / private / none) |   |
| Preferred location |   |
| Officiant preference (clergy, celebrant, family member, none) |   |
| Music preferences |   |
| Readings or speakers |   |
| Flowers or charitable donations in lieu of flowers |   |
| Attendance preference (public / family only / graveside only) |   |
| Livestream or recording |   |
|   |   |

### Obituary Guidance



### Personal Notes to Family



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## Family Guide Starter Template — Funeral Wishes

> This template belongs in The Family Guide. It summarizes the wishes and the first call to make.

> In the matching Secure Guide section: disposition preferences, pre-paid arrangements, service preferences, obituary guidance.
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> Nothing in this Module is secret — its entire job is to be findable. The full record sits in The Secure Guide; if the Vault is briefly out of reach, the summary on this page is enough to act on.

### Our Wishes



### First Calls



### Obituary



### A Note from the Planner



### Additional Guidance